Why Twa Twa is becoming rare on the marriage bed

Saturday, December 28th, 2019 11:00 |
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A couple of weeks ago, Pastor Susan Munene, she of Twa Twa teaching was the talk of town.

A viral video where she taught matters sex propelled this hitherto unknown pastor and her husband into the limelight.

Several men, judging by the comments on social media when Susan and her husband appeared on a local television were really tickled.

This is the kind of stuff that men want their wives to hear. It is also, like pastor Susan says, the thing that cements or unites the two in marriage.

Hearing this topic taught from a rare source, in church, was encouraging not to mention its originality.

If couples didn’t have a code name about this topic, that is seen as a taboo in our culture, they now have it, thanks to Pastor Susan.

As I grow older and hopefully wiser, one thing I have come to appreciate so much is the value of balance.

This is because as human beings, we often have a tendency to swing from one end of the pendulum to the other. Thus, it is always good to bring things into balance, lest we go to both extremes.

Whereas Twa Twa is important in marriage, there are several factors that will augment or diminish it’s desire among many couples.

Twa Twa cannot be taken out of the context of the totality of the relationship itself. 

For example, when a wife doesn’t feel loved and appreciated, or if she doesn’t get domestic support from her man, especially during this Christmas season when the house manager is off, she may not give herself fully to her husband.

She may give sex to her husband more out of duty than love. As one friend of mine put it, kuna kupewa na kuwachiliwa, and men know the difference.

On the other hand, there are men who don’t function at the junction not because they have erectile dysfunction issues, but simply because they don’t feel respected in their kingdom.

When a man is constantly reminded of his failures and disrespected or shouted at by his wife, he will not rise to the occasion. And when there’s no Twa Twa happening, then it becomes difficult for the two to remain one. 

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