Why marriage requires great sacrifice and dedication
Last week, we celebrated Mashujaa Day were honoured our heroes—men and women who have done great things for this nation such as those who fought for our independence and athletes, such as Eliud Kipchoge, who have put our country on the world map.
Indeed, we salute these men and women for their sacrifice and dedicated service to this great nation.
Two words are important to note here — sacrifice and service. When you hear about someone like Nelson Mandela, Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther and Dedan Kimathi, what comes to your mind? Sacrifice! Every community, not Kenya alone, honours those who gave their life for a cause.
Why do we feel such a magnetic pull toward people who make such great sacrifices? What is this mystical connection between our soul and the nobility of selfless acts?
Preacher and author Chip Ingram say sacrifice is the clearest and greatest evidence of the extent of one’s love and devotion toward a person or a cause.
So, how devoted are we to our spouses as married couples? How devoted are we for the cause of marriage? How much are we willing to sacrifice for our spouse, for our relationship?
More often, we only think of what we can get or benefit from our relationships and not what we can sacrifice for them.
The second thing we think about when we think of our mashujaa is dedicated service. We live in a world where we are so caught up with titles and a sense of entitlement.
We are obsessed with our rights and are so selfish thinking only of how others can serve our interests.
No wonder marriages are breaking down and we don’t even know how to relate well. We don’t want to serve each other— instead we only want to be served.
We are in this thing for what we will get rather than for what we can give. A selfish self-conceited people cannot relate well with others.
For two people to get together and stay together for the long haul, it’s going to require these two things, sacrifice and service.