What kind of relationship do you want in 2020?

Monday, January 13th, 2020 00:00 |

Happy New Year. As we embark on a new year, this is an opportunity for you to have a fresh start, a new beginning.

Many Kenyans said that 2019 was a very difficult year because of the economy.

I wonder how that impacted your relationship with your spouse? You see money is a big contributor to the collapse of many marriages. 

As we begin the new year, we need to take stock of last year. How was our relationship as a couple? What were our high moments?

What were our low moments? What did we or can we learn from these moments? What needs to change this year?

What can we do differently as far as our relationship is concerned? You see, only a mad person keeps doing the same thing expecting a different result.

For us to have a different result, we must endeavour to do things differently and this is going to take a lot of courage, determination and effort. 

First we must ask ourselves what kind of relationship we want. Let’s be realistic, forget about the fairy tales and Mexican soap operas.

What kind of relationship do we want? What kind of relationship do we currently have, or have we had in the past?

What will need to change and why? Answering the question why, or finding that big WHY for the change you want is very important as this is what will drive you to change.

You see many start on a high note, but so often end up the same way we might have ended up in 2019. It’s not how you start that matters, it’s how you end. 

The preacher in Ecclesiatses put it so well; “The end of a matter is better than its beginning…”

But to have that great ending that we all desire, we must plan and be intentional from the very begining. 

And so as we start 2020, let us envision the end that we want, and begin working towards it. As a couple declare to each other that “This is our Year!”

Then roll up your sleeves and get to work, for it takes work for marriage to work. Have a Two-in-One year 2020!

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