The first 10 years\u00a0 in any marriage are probably the most overrated, disappointing and drastically\u00a0 life changing. It is a time to you figure each other out and discover your partner\u2019s weaknesses and strengths. It\u2019s been 11 years since top Christian DJ, Moses Kimathi Mathenge aka DJ Moz, said \u2018I do\u2019 to his Scottish wife, Deborah Kimathi. The two met at an event where he was contracted as a DJ in 2005. She was working on a missionary project and did not know that their friendship would three years later, blossom into marriage. Deborah\u00a0 says her husband like her loves people and fun. He is a God-fearing\u00a0 man, who despite the tumults of married life, has remained faithful to the relationship . \u201cI remember people saying the first three years of marriage are usually the most difficult. We hit three years, then they said the same about the next seven years, and 11 years down the line, we are stronger,\u201d says Deborah. Challenges Before having their first daughter, Zara in 2011, the two lovebirds had a series of miscarriages, an emotionally issue that they had to deal with. \u201cA miscarriage is like taboo. I remember when it happened and I shared about it, I found other women who had also gone through the same experience. You feel at that point that you are the only person going through it, but statistics show that one in four pregnancies end in miscarriage. Talking to others definitely helps in the healing process,\u201d recalls Deborah.\u00a0 They admit, however, that they didn\u2019t go through counselling, but healed through the support of friends and family. Also, praying together, they say helped them get over the difficult period. In the course of the pregnancy of their firstborn, DJ Moz lost his father and a close friend\u2019s mother. In these tragedies, he found solace in prayer and Deborah was shoulder to lean on. Durng the birth of their children, Deborah says DJ Moz stayed by her side in the delivery room. \u201cWe had a deal when I was pregnant that Moz would see me through to the very end of the pregnancy, which meant being in the delivery room. He had no option, but to be there,\u201d she laughs. For DJ Moz, it was a special moment seeing his babies delivered, although he admits it was tough watching his wife bring them out to the world. The couple has three children, Zara, Alba and Baraka. Deborah says two months after having Zara, DJ Moz shaved his dreadlocks out of his own volition. Deborah describes him as a hands-on dad, adding that fatherhood has helped him understand God\u2019s love. \u201cHaving a child tests one\u2019s patience and develops character. You get to value discipline,\u201d she says. Late in 2014, DJ Moz lost his elder sister on the same morning his daughter was admitted in the hospital with a chest infection. This was a difficult moment in their marriage. Just six months later, Deborah lost her mum and this hit them hard. Naming their children Their children\u2019s names have a cultural meaning. For instance, their first born\u2019s name is Zara, which means radiant flower and her middle name is Wangari, her grandmother. \u201cIt was important for us that each child represented the family heritage. We always knew that we were going to follow the traditions of both cultures and that we would choose the first name and then follow tradition. Alba\u2019s name not only means place of strength, but it\u2019s also the Gaelic word for Scotland. Her middle name is Joan after Deborah\u2019s grandmother. And Baraka means blessings and his middle name is Mathenge after DJ Moz\u2019s dad,\u201d she explains Celebrity life Deborah says she is not bothered by the attention that her husband gets at events, especially from the female fans. She says DJ Moz has always been a people person and that has not affected their marriage except when they out and he has to keep stopping for a banter with fans. \u201cSo you send Moz\u00a0 to buy something from the supermarket and it takes an hour because he has to stop to say hallo to everybody he meets along the way, some seeking for advice and take selfies. You just get used to it and keep walking and do what needs to be done,\u201d says Deborah. Work and marriage Four months after their wedding, in 2009, Moz got the opportunity to take his Kubamba show on TV. The period was tough for Deborah who had the challenge of adjusting to a new church while Moz had to get his new job going. \u201cMy church was like my home and family and although it was work for him, I felt like he\u2019d left me alone to adjust to the new place,\u201d she confesses.\u00a0 This got harder when the children came and she had to juggle going with them to church. As she recalls, each Sunday of the four years when her children were young\u00a0 comprised sitting in the cr\u00e8che or nursing mothers corner taking care of the children while the sermon went on. Being there meant that she couldn\u2019t meet up with the adults in the church.\u00a0 \u201cDuring that period, I wasn\u2019t getting much from church, but she taught her children how to learn the word of God. We did eventually move to a smaller church where we would be more engaged with younger children. By that time, she had already adapted handling her children when they went to church,\u201d she says\u00a0 In 2017, while Kubamba radio was launched, Deborah was in the middle of changing jobs. This taught her the essense of supporting each in such major transitions. For example, they had to make time in the evenings after work for family to catch up.