Lack of clarity and consistence kills trust
There’s been a lot happening lately, especially in the political scene. I remember following Kirinyaga governor Ann Waiguru impeachment saga. It was interesting to watch this debate for two reasons.
One, the dilemma on whether to go through a full senate seating or the committee way. And two, the inconsistencies in the way majority of the members voted.
I’m not in any way trying to advocate here which method was better than the other or whether the Governor was guilty or not.
But one thing for sure was that how they arrived at the method to use was vague. A lack of clarity may have left Wanjiku smelling something fishy even when there was no fish at all.
You see, a lack of clarity even where relationships are concerned breeds a lot of mistrust. It leaves one not confident whether they are in or not.
For example, a lack of clarity on where a relationship is going leaves one partner frustrated and confused, especially if they have set their mind on a particular outcome.
Where there’s no clarity, it is difficult to trust. Trust is defined as doing what is right, to deliver what is promised and to be the same every time, whatever the circumstances.
Failure to be the same whatever the circumstances is where most of the members of Senate failed.
It was interesting in the Senate to see the very people who were for one particular method during Governor Ferdinard Waititu’s case shouting themselves hoarse for the other method when it came to Waiguru’s case.
When we are not consistent in what we say and do, it makes it difficult for us to be trusted. If he tells you he loves you, yet is not committing to a long-term relationship, it makes you wonder what is happening.
When she says one thing to you and tells your friend a different thing, it leaves you struggling to trust them. Even our children suffer if the goalposts keep shifting, they need to see some consistency.
Our spouse wants to know that we will be there for them whatever the circumstances, for better or for worse, till death do us part. And that’s how the two become one and remain one!