Keep romance alive and give your marriage space to breath
The number of Covid-19 cases has increased tremendously in the last couple of days. So bad is the situation that some estates are now under lockdown.
This increase in numbers could be due to a number of factors, maybe it’s because there are now more people being tested compared to before, or we have thrown caution to the winds and gone back to our normal lifestyles.
There are certain simple measures and things we can do or not do to arrest this trend.
Similarly in order to have a strong and healthy relationship, there are certain simple things that we need to do or not do.
During this Covid-19 season, many couples are experiencing a lot of things that if not managed well could make their staying at home together hell or even destroy their relationships.
With the anxieties and uncertainties that this pandemic has brought to us, we need to be aware of how this is affecting our spouses and us emotionally and to be sensitive to them.
We cannot have healthy and strong relationships if we ourselves are not healthy.
So it should begin with us. How are you dealing with your fears? Who are you talking to and what are you telling yourself?
Self-care is critical at this time because if we don’t take care of ourselves, we cannot take care of our spouse and children.
We need to listen to our own self-talk as this is what may increase our anxieties and make us behave in such a manner that we are not good to be around.
We need to watch what we are feeding our mind with. Avoid too much information about this pandemic, getting daily updates might just be sufficient.
Instead, lighten up, by watching some comedy together, like Laugh Your Way To a Better Marriage by Mark Gungor.
Someone once told Grace and I, that since we work together, a relationship also needs to breathe.
You breathe in by connecting, being together, and then breathe out by giving each other space to be by yourselves.
Whatever you do, find ways that will help you reduce the tensions at home so that the two can continue being one even as you enjoy staying home together.