How men win their wives and lose them
Recently, I was invited to speak to a group of men at ICC Imara campus on broken relationships. The debate that arose was the fact that work can be intoxicating. It can be a place to escape unpredictable emotions of our wives and whiny children.
As men we can get caught up in what we do that we so often forget our key relationships, especially our marriage and family. The women in our lives get confused because when we first set our eyes on them we mounted an insurmountable pursuit for them, but after we won them, we forgot them. Yes it is said men are motivated by projects, the wife was once a project, but after capturing her the man quickly moved into the next project, which so often has got to do with his career and achievements.
Men define themselves by what they do, so they become so engrossed in what they do that they forget their loved ones. Billy Chapel in the movie, For the Love of the Game, was good at baseball and the whole macho image that he put it first before his relationship. Billy must choose between the woman he loves and the game he lives for. His girlfriend Jane Aubry finally finds out that her man’s life is all about baseball and leaves him. But he finally comes to his senses after playing in the greatest game of his life, “... Well, last night should have been the biggest night of my life, and it wasn’t because you weren’t there,” he told her.
Could it be that after being in the biggest night of our life, when we get that award, or promotion or accomplish our dream project, it will not after all be our greatest night because our wife won’t be there with us? Like the scriptures say, what will it profit a man (here literally the male gender), if we gain the whole world and yet lose our soul, our relationship? May we as men make our women the priority in our lives and may we keep them as an ongoing project for as long as we both shall live.